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Astral 101: Dreams; A Guest Article by She-Patch!

Hey everyone!  This is Ryan from Astral 101 here.  The last month has been a crazy one, and I thank you all for your patience.  I intend to get back on track with a LOT of new content!  To start things off, we have a Guest article by Vanessa Cuccia, aka She-Patch!  She is a very wise and heart-warming friend of mine and I’m very pleased to present her work.  Enjoy!

 

Whether you’re learning to lucid dream or astral project, your “regular” dreams are going to become more vivid. This is happening to many of you, I’m sure, and this article will hopefully inspire you to use your dreams as if they were therapy sessions with your own personal built-in guru – your higher self.

 

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been fascinated with dreaming, and my dreams were part of every-day conversation with friends and family members. I started to keep a dream journal, Durante la Luna, and would scribe away often. I would then pick out certain themes or symbols, like driving or horses, look these up in a dream dictionary or website, and write down the meanings they provided. Soon, this way of understanding my dreams was not satisfying for me anymore. Why should a horse mean the same thing to me as it does to another person? If I fell off a horse as a child, my associations with the horse as a symbol may be fear, failure, and disappointment whereas horses to a person who grew up on a farm may mean something more like companionship and loyalty. After this realization, I stopped interpreting my dreams because in my heart I knew that from then on this approach had little truth to it.  A few years later I happened upon a book my boyfriend’s friend gave to him. “Every Dreamer’s Handbook” by Will Phillips.  Will expresses the same dissatisfaction with the dream-symbol approach as I felt. Much of this article is from his book, and I highly recommend it to anyone who wants to do further research on this.

 

Our higher-selves already know the answers to our problems. Think about times when you ask for advice. On some level, you already know what you would like to hear, so you go to the friend or family member that you know will give you the advice in which you choose to listen to. Our dreams are our higher-selves giving us guidance, warning us, and evaluating our waking lives. We can consult them for all the advice we need. It just takes some decoding and a loving relationship with ourselves. Give a look at your waking life. Do you tend to inhibit expressions of emotions? You may be doing the same thing in your dreams. Try letting go when it won’t do any harm and see the difference it makes in your dreams.

 

In “Every Dreamer’s Handbook” there is a worksheet to help each of us with this. I will go through some of the steps, and attach the worksheet in its entirety to the bottom of this article. Before you go about this process, trust the relationship you have with yourself, and follow your instincts when unfolding the messages in your dreams. When you go through the worksheet, remember that the goal isn’t to finish it; it’s to get something out of it. If you have an “ah-ha” moment, smile, and take your own advice.

 

The first step to uncovering the messages in our dreams is to recount the dream in the present tense, condensing the main elements into outline form.

 

Setting (Describe the location, time of day, season, point in history, weather, and mood.)

 

Characters (List the main characters or groups, whether they are human, animal, vegetable, or mineral.)

 

Event (Essentially, what is happening in the dream?)

 

Response (How do I respond to the main event? If I am not a participant in the dream, what is the response of the main character?)

 

Conclusion (What is the last thing I remember happening in the dream just before waking up?)

 

If the setting is unclear, that’s OK, try to describe the mood. When listing the characters, ask yourself if the characters remind you of someone in your waking life and if at times you act like them in some way. When you look back at the main event, ask yourself if it reminds you of anything similar going on in your waking life.

 

The next step is to decide what you felt at the end of the dream and plot it on this emotional spectrum:

 

2) FEELING AT THE CONCLUSION

horror fear frustration neutrality satisfaction happiness elation         

            |—————————————-|—————————————|

            (Warning)                               (Evaluation)                          (Guidance)

Depending on where you plotted tells you what kind of a dream it was. Warning dreams, as Will puts it, are like red traffic signals and they are only dangerous when ignored. Unfortunately, many of us have a remarkable ability to ignore our own discomfort. But a function of a Warning Dream may be to motivate you into action by making you more afraid of where you are than of where you need to go. As you make progress, your dreams will become less disturbing.

 

Evaluation Dreams provide an overview of the dreamer’s current life and Guidance Dreams are good indications of what opportunities are currently available to you in your waking life.

After that, decide how “vivid” your dream was on a scale of 1-10. The more vivid the dream is, the more prevalent the issue is for the dreamer and may require immediate attention.

Title your dream next in about five words, as this will help you identify the essence of what you experienced. When you understand the essence of your dream, you will understand what the issue is that needs attention. This will also help you locate your files quickly, in the event you need to uncover possible recurring dreams. Recurring dreams indicate there is an issue in your waking life being ignored.

 

Step five is to ask yourself if there was anything in the dream you were avoiding, and if so, what was it and why was it important to avoid it? Anything you refuse to face in waking life will follow you across the bridge into sleep. There you can continue to try to avoid it, but avoidance in the dream state is both more difficult and more obvious. If you experienced avoidance in your dream, take a look at who or what you were avoiding and why, ask yourself if it is a reflection of something you are neglecting in your waking life. There are also times in our dreams where a scenario presents itself that we absolutely refuse to acknowledge, and run away. These are “Chase Dreams.” In these dreams, something is pursuing you. Reflect on what you are avoiding in your waking life, take steps to confront it, and watch these Chase Dreams to go to bed.

The sixth step is to identify any “polarities” that exist in the dream. Acknowledging the polarities help the dreamer uncover issues he/she may be avoiding. This also helps with finding the heart of the dream and therefore, the issue we need to ask our built-in gurus advice for. Here are some examples:

 

Conformity vs. Individuality

Abundance vs. Need

Freedom vs. Restriction

Separation vs. Reunion

Privacy vs. Exposure

Vulnerability vs. Toughness

Imbalance vs. Equilibrium

Decisiveness vs. Acquiescence

Honesty vs. Deception

Desires vs. Loyalties

Power vs. Impotence

Death vs. Rebirth

Confrontation vs. Avoidance

Commitment vs. Desertion

 

Seven is where we begin to write our personalized dream symbol dictionaries. List the most outstanding images that appeared in the dream, along with a brief statement defining and describing each. Instead of looking symbols up on the internet, explore symbols in relation to you own individual perception. Personal associations always take precedence over cultural connotations. Will uses a flower in one of his dreams as an example of this. He describes the flower as something of rare beauty, alive and growing, and in his dream it was very special and important to him. Stating that lead him to understand that the flower was a symbol of his personal and spiritual growth, and it was something that needed protection (in the dream he had to find a suitable place for the flower to grow).

The eighth step is to identify characters in the dream and write out a short “motto” for each of them. A motto should answer, “Where is this character coming from?” It will allow you to discover how the character sees himself and why he acts the way he does. This is a fun exercise, as you have to put yourself in the shoes of at times the very antagonist of your dreams. The characters in your dreams may be mirrors to show parts of yourself that you may be unaware of. Whether our dream characters are modeled after family members or appear to be complete strangers, they are undeniably members of our “inner family” as Will says. Any time we deny a characteristic, judging it to be either undesirable or unobtainable, we are cutting ourselves off from our wholeness. So, allow these characters to say what they want and try not to inhibit them. This is the only way in which you may recognize the validity of their viewpoints and this will lead to your discovery of profound truths from unlikely sources. And just like that, you will be broadening your overall perspective.

Next step in Will’s worksheet is to draw a simple sketch of the most emotionally highly charged scene in the dream.  I’ve never been a visual artist to any degree, but these are meant to be just simple sketches to help bring us closer to the original experience. I’ve actually written scripts from my dreams in hopes of one day creating films from them, but for now I just close my eyes and visualize as clearly as possible. After you draw or visualize this scene from your dream, put yourself there and complete this sentence, which is step #10, “I feel…” Make sure that you list three or four words that are feelings, and not thoughts. Don’t try to intellectualize at this point, it’s your feelings that will lead to the greater understanding of your dream.

OK, so this is where we get to the practical side of dream work. The next steps in the worksheet are designed to help us understand better the hidden reasons behind our waking experiences. Our dreams occur with the purpose of influencing our waking actions in ways that will benefit our lives. So, after step ten ask yourself, “What kinds of WAKING situations have I had feelings similar to those just described?”

If you find that there are many times when you feel the way you did in that dream scene, look for a common denominator in the situations when you feel that way.

Number twelve has us look at what is going on in our waking lives, and what was going on in our heads before we went to bed the night of the dream. If you keep a journal, it’d be cool now to incorporate your dreams in it as well. This way you see your various states of consciousness working together.

The next steps in the worksheet are to ask ourselves, “If I were to have this same dream again tonight, what (if anything) would I do differently to create a more satisfying outcome?” If you were satisfied with how your dream concluded, you can think of how you would like the dream to continue. I had a dream once where a boss who had fired me was in my house and making me feel very uncomfortable. At this step I realized that if I had the dream again, I would want to tell him to get out of my house because he did not belong there. This made me realize that I was still allowing the unsettling feelings I acquired from being fired to invade my emotional state and that I should “kick” these resentful feelings out of my body. It was super cool.

That leads to the last step that is 14, “How can I translate these dream improvements into waking terms I can act upon TODAY to similarly improve my physical situation?”

If at the end of the worksheet, you aren’t sure if you’ve interpreted your dream correctly, Will gives us a list of three questions we can ask ourselves to check the validity of our interpretations.

  1. Do I feel a physical, gut-level affirmation of the dream work?
  2. Does the dream work reveal something new?
  3. Do subsequent dreams reflect increased harmony and equilibrium?

I hope you enjoyed this article and that you will check out “Every Dreamer’s Handbook” by Will Phillips. Sweet dreams.

 

 

Dream Worksheet

 

1) SCERC OUTLINE:

Setting

Characters

Event

Response

Conclusion

 

2) FEELING AT THE CONCLUSION

horror fear frustration neutrality satisfaction happiness elation          

            |—————————————-|—————————————|

            (Warning)                             (Evaluation)                         (Guidance)

3) VIVIDNESS/INTENSITY

            |—————————————-|—————————————|

            0                                                      5                                                       10

 

 

4) TITLE:

5) AVOIDANCE:

6) CHOICE/POLARITIES:

7) OUTSTANDING IMAGES:

8 ) PARTICIPANTS AND MOTTOS:

9) MOST HIGHLY-CHARGED SCENE:

10) I FEEL:

11) I’VE HAD SIMILAR FEELINGS WHEN:

12) PREDREAM CONCERNS:

13) REDREAM/PARADREAM:

14) TRANSLATION INTO ACTION:

 

If you have any questions or comments:
Vanessa aka She-Patch – vanessa.cuccia@gmail.com
Ryan Boyd- astral101@thespiritscience.net 

From both Vanessa and I, Namaste, Love and Light!

Comments

  1. Wow th?t was unusual. ? ?ust wrote ?n really long c?mment but afte
    I clicked submit m? commenmt didn’t ?ppear.
    Grrrr… ?ell I’m noot writing all that ?ve? again.
    Anyh?w, j?st wanted to say great blog!

  2. i had a dream yesterday so i got to try this out.

    it fits my waking life so i’m happy.

    but the thing is, the antagonist is similar to the protagonist in another dream.
    i feel wrong for winning now…

  3. It feels pretty unlikely that everydream has something to do with whats happening with me, I could have misunderstood what you ment.. then ill re-read it. anyway great stuffs! definetly gonna try this. oh and “ah-ha” moment .. love those :P

  4. Thank you very much She-Patch! Very awesome post, I appreciate the dream worksheet. I have been trying to develop something pretty close to that, but this one is much better than what I came up with. Haha. Thank you again!!

  5. I have a dream journal and have gone through a similar method, although not as intense.
    I looked up many dream interpretations and took from them what I agreed with, so not much. Mainly just summarizing the dream, the emotions, the themes, and sketching a scene(s) and objects. I don’t often dream, as I take seizure medication, so my journal is almost empty.
    I’ll be sure to look this book up.

  6. She-patch you are awesome, epic article. I will indeed start writing a dream journal, i should have started years ago.

    I have been reading many things about it but never jumped into it. Probably for the reason you said you had problems with it too, that people decide that they can interprete your dreams for you. Its similar to tarot, you always know more than they do and you feel bad. The interpretations by others for dreams are never really truly correct and tend to make you lean towards a more comfortable answer. Or a totally wrong one and then remember only that one meaning. Failing to take your own intuition into account. Its easy to be swayed by others sometimes.

  7. Wonderful article Vanessa! I just applied this worksheet to my dream last night and gained very valuable insight that is applicable in my waking life.

    Can’t thank you enough!