5 Ways to Show Your Partner You Love Them

Words of Affirmation

couple-whisperingPositive reinforcement works for a reason – we respond well to that contagious energy that is positivity. It’s like when someone laughs and that makes you laugh, we are naturally drawn to what makes us feel good.

Saying kind, genuine  affirmations to your partner will make them feel good about themselves when it comes from the heart. Often we say things because we want to be heard or we want the recognition for what we’re doing.

These remarks, observations, compliments or anything of the like hold meaning when they are specific. Think about the core of what you love about them, and describe how it makes you feel.

When I told my partner they were amazing I got met with the response “Amazing at what?

Acts of Service

This can look like a lot of things from doing the dishes to rubbing feet – the point is, you should want to do it. The joy you bring to your partner when you take something off their plate is an act of service. Do something for your partner because it a53a2605-c535-4281-b779-553b7421c8c4brings them joy, which in turn brings you joy.

When we do something because we want to be recognized or want some level of affection, say what you want rather than trying to get it through an act of service.

Be transparent and forthcoming about what you want. That is an act of service that takes practice and persistence. Being yourself is an act of service. Being ‘real’ is an act of service. Anything that brings some degree of ease to your partner could be considered an act of service.

Do what you feel compelled to do because you want to not because it gets you off the hook.

Receiving Gifts

Some would consider an act of service as a gift – but this is more “something I am giving to you, rather than something I am doing for you.” This can look like giving anything from a personalized present to flowers, chocolate, something you know giftgivingyour partner likes. Gift giving can be used both to create special moments and to try to get out of something you did. When we give without meaning, our gifts are meaningless.

Doing this because you truly want to is key in a successful relationship and that fractals out to all aspects of your life.

There is an ebb and flow of giving and receiving and sometimes we need to ask for what we want. We can’t assume everyone knows how we are feeling so it is our responsibility to let them know. It’s almost a punishment to not engage with our partners.

Quality Time


It’s almost a punishment to not engage with our partners. 

On some level – it is a punishment, and this translates to everything from eye contact, body language and the engagement during intercourse. Giving your undivided attention to your partner is a gift, an act of service and one of the best ways to show them love. It’s incredibly easy but the design of our society ensures the constant stimulation of our brains. Put your phone away, concentrate and listen deeply to what your partner has to say because this is something you should want to do.

If you don’t feel compelled to do these things in your relationship, carefully evaluate the reasons you are in it and account for the joys versus the stress. Every relationship has its ‘ups and downs’ thats how motion continues forward, but if you are feeling there is more negative than positive – that equation needs to be balanced.

Physical Touch

This is an incredibly powerful tool that can be easily misused. We’ve all been guilty of trying to get a kiss while our partners are mad at us – and it can work.

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Depending on the nature of your relationship, physical touch can be the dominate reason for being in it in the first place. Our hormones draw us together, naturally we are meant to be close, to be open and vulnerable. It is so crucial to be able to read the energies of when it’s appropriate to physically connect with someone.

Even just touching someone’s hand or shoulder, see how they react to it. The more you carefully and deeply observe peoples energies towards things you do and say the more you learn how to navigate communication.

Having a sexual experience of any capacity holds an immense amount of energy, and when our intent is focused on what we want – we can make it happen. Having a constant, open stream of communication with your partner makes everything enjoyable, understandable and real.


Based on the 5 love languages. 


Epigenetics: The Secret To Maintaining A Healthy Mind, Body, & Spirit

Science has traditionally maintained a ‘material reductionistic’ view of mind and consciousness. Meaning that the phenomenon of consciousness and mind is something to be explained in terms of physical and chemical processes in the brain. On the other hand, certain philosophies and spiritual disciplines have held the inherent assumption that physical reality is totally detached from spiritual reality and one is not accessed through the other. This is of course creating more or less the same problem as in Science.

Many pre-Scientific cultures however have held an alternative and holistic view which transcends beyond these problems. They have seen the human experience in its totality – mind, body and spirit – as being closely interrelated and interconnected with the environment, the healing medicines of nature, the celestial movements and the cycles of the seasons, etc. Everything is causally interconnected in the grand wheel of life.

Our physical and mental health are influenced by the state of our bio-energetic field which in turn is also influenced by the karmic energies of the land, the people around us and the planet as a whole. Similarly, and equally interesting, our spiritual, energetic and non-physical health can be hacked through physical means. The physical is interfaced with our bio-energetic field and also with our multi-dimensional levels of consciousness through our DNA, our nervous and endocrine systems, the energy centres in our body (chakras) and very possibly through quantum communication between the micro-cellular level of our bodies up to the bio-energetic field and beyond to the quantum field that underlies everything.

These physical interfaces or gateways can be hacked, healed or optimised. For instance, we are now starting to understand that our DNA is read-write and not read-only as was previously assumed. That means that our codes are being constantly rewritten even through our diet, lifestyle and stress levels – both positively and negatively.

The obvious had been staring us in the face all along. So many cultures came up with various methods to hack the spiritual through the physical – healing herbs, entheogens, fasting, exercises and even dance movements, meditation and so on. Take for instance the healing medicine plant Ayahuasca – how is it that one molecule – DimethylTryptamine (DMT – often referred to as the ‘spirit molecule’) can unlock powerful healing and cleansing in the biological, mental, energetic and spiritual layers of Self at once?

I would like to share with you my own daily source of nutrients and supplements that can be used by everyone to gain mental, energetic and spiritual health through bio-physical means. Some of the items on the list are common foods items, familiar to most, together with herbs and supplements that are available over the counter. As a disclaimer, I would like to note that this is fruit of my own research and experimentation which might no fit everyone’s lifestyle and taste. Also please consult a physician if you have any conditions that might be affected by diet or food supplements.

Nootropics: Keeping Optimal Brain Performance

Poor diet, stress and a hectic lifestyle can sap our mental energies and brain performance leaving our brain foggy. We feel not up to task to healthily navigate our way through our daily routines. This cascades into other areas of our life, not least our work, relationships and creativity.

Nootropics are the hottest trend of the moment in both the personal development and health and fitness world. They are essentially a group of smart drugs that target cognitive and neurological enhancement most popularly memory, motivation, focus & attention and mood.

Nootropics are approved and regulated smart drugs that can be bought over the counter or internet for under $50. One of the best products on the market so far is Alpha Brain by Onnit. Alpha Brain basically targets focus, mental drive and memory performance. It seriously gives me a powerful mental boost on the tap. I feel mentally focused, clear and sharp to perform my tasks throughout the day without ‘mental fogginess’. Main active ingredients are:

  • AC-11: the ‘rainforest super herb’ shown to help the body repair DNA
  • Alpha GPC: which supports learning processes through increasing the synthesis and secretion of acetylcholine. Heightened acetylcholine has been linked to memory, focus, mental drive, and REM sleep states
  • Huperzine A: known as Northern Firmross it prevents the breakdown of acetylcholine
  • Bacopa Monniera: An Ayurvedic herb known for its cognitive enhancing properties.

The Good Fats and the Hippocampus

The benefits of essential fatty acids such as Omega-3 are well known. It is one of the most common food supplements in people’s medicine chest. However I started taking regular intake of Omega-3 seriously when I saw this insightful video by Alberto Villoldo titled “Hacking the human Bio-field”. He points out how parts of the brain like the Hippocampus are damaged by stress-related toxins such as cortisol and adrenaline that are stored in the brain by the body. A damaged Hippocampus, according to Alberto, is what leads us to live in a state of fear where we only see threats instead of opportunities. The good fats, particularly Omega-3 is what is responsible for healing and detoxifying the Hippocampus even in just six weeks of regular intake.

Proteins & cutting down on Gluten & Sugars

Another interesting insight from Alberto Villoldo’s talk, regards how sugar and gluten are also responsible for damaging the brain. He points at anthropological studies that show how for instance the rise of war and religion in society propped up when humanity shifted from a hunter-gatherer to an agricultural based society. The diet shifted from fats & proteins to grain derived products like bread which are laden with gluten and sugar. The underlying epigenetic effect partly gave rise to the result that human society became more fear-based and aggressive. This is a very interesting point but now back to the kitchen.

My experiments in carb-free, Gluten-free and sugar-free diets have had an immense beneficial effect to my wellbeing and even mood overall. My last meal is before 6pm, then I break fast with a high protein meal – for example egg with tuna, spinach and topped with Guacamole. I snack on nuts, green smoothies then have a mini-lunch and early dinner with greens and fish.


Antioxidants play also a crucial part in detoxifying the mind and body. I take my antioxidants from the super foods I eat – mainly dark green veg, nuts and green tea ( I take Matcha green tea which has 137 times the antioxidants of normal green tea). Another source of antioxidants is from small bits of dark chocolate I put in my smoothies (dark chocolate is rich in antioxidants).

Boosting Serotonin:

Serotonin is a neuro-transmitter in the brain synthesised from the amino acid Tryptophan. It is responsible for improving mood, promoting happiness, relaxation and the ability to get a good night sleep. Hence hacking your serotonin levels is crucial to reinforcing your overall wellbeing, not least spiritually and energetically. One way of doing this is through a natural amino acid supplement called 5-Hydroxytryptophan or 5-HTP for short. 5-HTP is synthesised in the brain into serotonin with the effect of elevating your mood and leaving you feel relaxed but focused at the same time.

The Calming Herbs:

Other natural tools to calm the mind and the nervous system are relaxing herbs such as valerian root, passion flower, lemon balm, chamomile and holy basil among others. These can be taken separately or combined together and steeped into teas. Ideal for winding down after a hard day or as an aid to get a good night of restorative sleep.

The key to fully tapping into the power of your genes, your consciousness, and your body is to think holistically and look at all of the parts involved in the human experience.  When mind, body, and spirit are each attended to, you are well are on your way to living the most fulfilling life possible.

Source:  This article was written by Gilbert Ross. You can find him on FacebookTwitterGoogle+ and his blog Soulhiker. You can also take his course at Udemy.

This article was originally featured on Soul Hiker, and was used with permission from the author.


3 Habits to Stop Doing & 3 Habits to Start Doing

It’s time to…

hqdefault1. Stop being thoughtless.

This looks like a lot of different things – from daydreaming in the middle of a conversation to forgetting to do something. Being thoughtless is not using your awareness to the best of your ability. When you are as conscious as you can be, your mind is full of thoughts – you are thoughtful.

Take a moment throughout the day to slow down whenever you need – think about what needs being done and how the best way to do it would be. When you see a mess needs to be cleaned up or when someone needs a friend to rant to – you’re already on it. You’re one step ahead because you see what needs being done and you take action even before being asked. That’s what being thoughtful is.

2. Stop fidgeting.


We all fidget to some degree and if it helps you concentrate then great – but the core vibration of it is distraction. This can even translate to looking at your phone during a conversation.

When you are being thoughtful, you are very aware of where your attention is going. I’m guilty of biting my nails to the extreme, and not only is it distracting during interaction but it can even be considered disrespectful. If someone is telling you something important and you’re half occupied withbiting your nails or looking at your split ends – it’s sometimes rude.

Feel the energy of where you are and be sensitive towards people’s needs. Some people don’t notice you’ve been fidgeting at all and others are completely distracted by it. Either way – putting your entire focus into something gets it done so much faster and it’s a great lesson to practice.

3. Stop Overthinking.


This is a difficult one – and it’s that way on purpose! Our society is designed to overload our brain with stimulation – clearing your mind is a task that takes practice. We are taught to think about all the things we need to do – “go to the bank, pick this up, why didn’t that person text me back, etc”.

It’s not our fault it has been drilled into our consciousness. Take a breath, take a moment to slow down and use that moment to focus on your center. Literally – focus on the core of your being.

If you’re in the middle of a rush, this is the perfect time to do this. Remember: slower is faster. You get things done so much faster when you focus on one thing at a time.


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Eight Celebrities Who Use Their Fame To Awaken The Masses

We live in strange times when celebrities are worshipped liked modern-age gods. Attention is heaped upon them and literally millions of people watch their every move so it’s no surprise when you hear of celebrities having nervous breakdowns, turning to drugs or even worse attempting suicide.

But some celebrities seem to have found a way through the murky tunnel of fame and came out at the other end enlightened and empowered. They use the unique platform they have been given to great purpose. This should not be taken lightly as celebrities literally have the ability to influence entire generations.

Indeed many of them have influenced me on a personal level and much of what you see on this website indeed videos and articles are centred around some of these ‘awake’ celebrities. So I have decided to compile a list of my top celebrities past and present who have used their fame to awaken the masses.

Kasim Khan – Team Spirit

Russell Brand

Russell is definitely one of my personal favourites. He is truly awakened on many different levels and I particularly admire his ability to connect with people.  You will find him all over this website.

Joe Rogan

This guy is a voice for the people. A real free thinker who questions everything.

Bill Hicks

A true legend. Used comedy brilliantly to share the truth with the masses. Sadly passed way too soon.

Jim Carrey

He seems to have experienced a real spiritual awakening as can be seen in this speech.

George Carlin

He had a unique style and was known for saying exactly what he thought. A true legend of comedy in every sense of the world. We miss you George.


Woody Harrelson

He has been speaking up for the state of our world for years.

Will Smith

Of all the people in this list I would say Will is the strongest motivational speaker and he has certainly used his fame to help others. His children Willow and Jaden seem to be extremely aware and that can only be down to the limitless energy and motivation of their father.

John Lennon

A real peace campaigner who still to this day inspires millions around the world.

I hope you have enjoyed my list. Is there anyone you would add? Let me know in the comments below.


Perfect is as Perfect Does

This article is going to be a sort of cross between a lesson from a nostalgic movie, a mathematics class, and a fun spirit science cartoon script!

And don’t worry about the math class part, you’ll do fine :)

Forest Gump said ‘stupid is as stupid does’. A lesson from his mom basically saying ‘thats how you know whats stupid. If it acts stupid, it is stupid’ (in this case, she was referring to forest himself..) 

Fibonacci-Spiral-ArtToday I offer you the flip side. Perfect is as perfect does. Now, sure: there is an unattainable ‘perfection’ that we can all strive to be but never actually be. I am not asking you to become a super-being overnight. Rather, I posture the idea that the continual forward motion towards ‘better’, towards ‘connection’ toward ‘clear and open communication’ is in harmony with fibonacci, and therefore is perfect.

Perfect is… as perfect does! There is in fact a science to it! :)

We discussed this idea in this here spirit science episode. Im sure you know the one.

For those of you who are still reading, lean in a little closer, because this is a really good part.

If you have seen this video, or researched it on your own, you know the relationship between phi and fibonacci. One is an infinite, beginning-less perpetual spiral of perfection. The other starts at 1, and continually gets closer and closer to that perfect spiral ratio but never quite hits it…

So what about Pi?

8-flow-of-life-flow-of-pi-cristian-ilies-vasilePi, as you might know, is the ratio of the diameter of a circle to the circumference around it, which comes in at a little over 3.14(ad infinitum). If your new to the concept, read the first 2 sections of this page. (And eveything else you can find that you want to learn about, of course). 

Think of it like the linear distance across vs. the total distance to go from one point, all the way around to the same starting point. One is a male figure (the line), and one is a female figure (the curve… and the circle/sphere, as a whole). To put these together is a blending of relationships.

Blending Phi and Pi as One – The Biwabik Sum

In this article by Gary Meisner, he expands on the relationship between pi, phi, and fibonacci all together as a whole.

Very simply, when you put Pi and Phi together, meaning the following:

1.61803398(…) X 3.14159265(…)

Comes out to

5.08320369 – The 5th number in the fibonacci equation, and a whole lot more.

DSC02892Ed Oberg and Jay A. Johnson have developed a unique expression for the pi-phi product (p?) as a function of the number 2 and an expression they call “The Biwabik Sum,” a function of phi, the set of all odd numbers and the set of all Fibonacci numbers, which you can download a Excel Sheet of right here.

If you can download and open up that document, you will find a very interesting report on the relationships between Pi, Phi, and Fibonacci… There is also an excel file right here which demonstrates the math very thoroughly.

Believe it or not, this is actually the part that relates back to our core idea, “Perfect is as Perfect Does”. Stay with me, I’m doing my best to explain what I know in a way that would be understandable to everyone.

In the document, they write:

It is clear that pi-phi product, the circumference of the proposed Golden Circle, is related to the Golden Ratio, the number two (the only even prime), the set of all odd numbers and the set of all Fibonacci numbers; each member of these two sets making a single appearance in the sum.

Gaias_GiftIn simple terms, these guys were able to plug together a formula using fibonacci and some other meaningful number series that resulted in finding the same Biwabik number that comes up naturally when you put Pi and Phi together.

The reason it works? Because it’s in balance!! The equation of symmetry is present on all sides of the equation. The side of Fibonacci, Pi, and Phi!

They found another way to do it, and quite a cool way indeed. In fact, straight up I don’t understand it nearly as well as they do. I wish that I did, and I am learning… but yeah, I get that there’s actually a lot more about this that I could know, and that excites me greatly!

tool-lateralusAnd that ultimately is my whole point. The process of learning, the process of continually using and expanding your brain, opening your heart, getting closer and closer to perfection IS what is actually perfect in the end.

To practice such is to attain perfection: Not in that your actions are perfect, but that the forward motion and growth emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically is perfect.

Perfect, having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be.

Perfect, to make (something) completely free from faults or defects, or as close to such a condition as possible.

So you see, perfect is as perfect does.  It is the journey, the motion toward, that is where you find perfection.

Jordan Pearce 


The Foolproof Guide to Lucid Dreaming

Imagine if every night when we’d fall asleep, we could consciously slip into an interactive dream together. We could co-create realities each night and explore the deepest corners of our unconscious, together.  We could experience those impossible, contradicting dream scenarios and manifest our wildest dreams, literally.

Lucid dreaming and experiencing the astrals is monumental in the evolution of our consciousness. To be able to explore the deepest, uncharted parts of our mind would completely effect how we exist after we wake up.

Consciously fall asleep:

When we fall asleep, our minds slip into unconsciousness before our physical body does. Sleep paralysis occurs when the mind is consciously feeling the body falling asleep – and it’s usually quite uncomfortable. For many, there’s an intense pressure that weighs down on you with such force that you feel like you can’t breathe.

You’re in a void of nothingness – yet it’s very much something. Sometime’s when this happens to me I have to force myself awake because it’s still such a scary experience.


The key to lucid dreaming is in this first step. If you can stay conscious during the initial stages of falling asleep – you can consciously control what happens after.When your body falls asleep and you experience sleep paralysis, ride with the experience. Focus on your breathing, feel your physical body and concentrate on that solid feeling.

What happens to me after my body relaxes enough is that I’ll see a small dot in the middle of the darkness. It quickly expands out in every direction, it expands into me and becomes the reality surrounding me. It’s like I zoom into the dream while staying lucid. Sometimes I lose it and wake up, it’s a practice of breathing with your mental movements and staying focused. Continue reading

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