Today, there is a great deal of evidence that most human beings are not familiar with how their emotions function, what the true purpose is, and/or how to utilize them. Our society has deemed it necessary to elude emotion with use over stimulation, and consume until that emotion is satisfied enough to lay dormant. It is about avoiding emotion and/or only feeling good. Our past societal structure , however, promoted happiness only primarily through a form of suffering. It allowed a certain level of emotional torment in order to grant ecstasy. Today, we are coming through this confusing period of discovering which is the right way to treat emotion. Do we numb it out with external stimulants, ignoring the wounded inner self, or do we abuse ourselves for wanting bliss, fulfillment, acknowledgement and seek happiness only through punishment?
Society provides guidelines on how a family should function. This is so that society can monitor it’s inner workings. The family structure abides by these guidelines for the most part, fulfilling the desires of how the society wants to function. For most of human history, society has deemed individuality a threat to a fluent structure of civilization. Any form of “out side the box” thinking that does not comply with the wants of society is usually rectified when the person is a child by the family. For many years parents scolded children for being out spoken and expressing individuality that was not in compliance to the time frame society gave people to start expressing individuality. What this did to many people was imprint a sense of shame for expressing their true selves. This shame caused them to split ego from true self and remain in the ego to escape the pain.
Shame is a large reason why we experience a misunderstanding of emotion. You can not understand what you are not familiar with. Separating from your inner self does not grant you the same information exchange that you would get By having all your wires truly and properly connected. This information exchange is in emotion. Lawrence Gonzala described in his book Deep Survival: “Emotion is the first to respond to a scene, then it sends a feeling ‘information’ to the mind, and the mind will rationalize what actions are correct for this situation.” Take into consideration that this process happens so quickly our conscious mind may have a hard time comprehending a time amount.
Most of this process happens in the subconscious. In our day and age, we are becoming more aware of the root of our insanity and illness. The child in us all is riddled with shame and has caused us to abandon ourselves. We have been robbed of the ability to experience our bodies, minds and souls in their full capacity. We have been miseducated on how to live with our emotions. We have been taught by habits, passed down from our fathers and mothers, that emotion will make you weak, emotions will keep you down. This is all about to change though. Emotions are now being seen as fuel, and information. When we can keep in mind that emotions are not the enemy, we will be able to enjoy the experience of life. You will move up the emotional ladder every ‘negative’ situation you encounter and exercise your involvement with your emotion. The key is involvement.
The Result is an awareness of what emotions are, what emotion you are expressing, what information it is producing, and what your reaction shall be. This is involvement and true freedom, and/or control; to be in constant balance, on the fulcrum of freedom and control. It is not easy at first, to have a relationship with your emotions, because you must have a relationship with your child self. You must release yourself from shame, and get to know your emotions; your inner self, and to do this you must give yourself the grace to feel pain. Knowing suffering is not necessary. Know that you are not the only one experiencing this reconnection from the separation humans have been experiencing for years, and it gets easier.