Today’s world is littered with ideologies like “fill up your own cup”, “everything you could ever want or need is inside you”, “the only approval you need is your own” and “no one else can make you happy, only you can do that”.  These ideologies exalt the idea of spiritual, emotional, mental and physical independence.  For some people, these ideologies are liberating.  For other people, these ideologies are painful.

One of the problems that we have today relative to the idea of independence and dependence is that we do not understand that we can have both.  The state of connection and the state of autonomy can coexist in perfect harmony.  In fact, it is the coexistence of these contradictory yet complimentary states that leads to health in relationships.

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