It is time to become aware of this emotional control switch when it goes off within us. The time has come to recognize ourselves resisting our own emotion the moment it arises.
This affect is the beginning of a downward spiral. Our emotions will work like a chain reaction where we struggle against them and end up being rolled over.
If we are in a situation where we feel like nothing ever works and like we will never feel better no matter how hard we try, it is because we are approaching our life from that very angle… that we must feel better because negative emotion is not ok. Anxiety is not ok, anger is not ok, sadness is not ok, grief is not ok. The way we feel is bad and so it has to change.
“It is normal to want to feel good. The basic survival instinct is to shy away from pain and go towards pleasure. This is not in and of itself a problem. Suffering is caused when instead of going towards pleasure, we resist the pain. And this, is what we have done with emotion” Continue reading →
Typically, hatred is seen as a negative and therefore unacceptable thing in our society. But hatred is a valid feeling, and when we deem something as bad and unacceptable to feel, we resist it within ourselves. And in a universe based on the law of attraction, whatever we resist persists. Instead of denying our hatred, we need to admit it to ourselves.
When we feel hatred and peel back that hatred to expose the more vulnerable emotions underneath it. Only then can we end hatred in ourselves and therefore end it in the world.
“Hatred is a cover emotion for fear and hurt. So address the fear and hurt directly then focus on things that cause you to feel empowered and safe and watch the hatred melt away. “
Today’s world is littered with ideologies like “fill up your own cup”, “everything you could ever want or need is inside you”, “the only approval you need is your own” and “no one else can make you happy, only you can do that”. These ideologies exalt the idea of spiritual, emotional, mental and physical independence. For some people, these ideologies are liberating. For other people, these ideologies are painful.
One of the problems that we have today relative to the idea of independence and dependence is that we do not understand that we can have both. The state of connection and the state of autonomy can coexist in perfect harmony. In fact, it is the coexistence of these contradictory yet complimentary states that leads to health in relationships.
We are moving in the direction of a socially unified world. Races are expressions of consciousness. They are perspectives. They are not who anyone is. But in today’s modern world, discussion about race has become taboo. As a result, we cannot have the crucial conversations we need to have in order to create a socially unified world. The time has come to make the topic of race and racism, no longer taboo.
What has never been talked about before is the fact that pain is not just felt by the person on the receiving end of racism. In fact the root of racism is pain. We do not develop resistance to a specific race unless we feel as if that race is a threat. So the question we need to be asking is, what is the perceived threat? What pain is hiding behind each specific case of racism? Until we address this pain, we will find no resolution. But if we find this root and begin to directly address the perceived pain that caused the racism in the first place, we can actually create resolution.
Like it or not, we all hold racial stereotypes. If we can face these stereotypes and admit to the pain behind them on both sides, racism could actually become a thing of the past.