I am going to have to set up the scenario for your mind visually before we can get into action steps of how to truly guard yourself as an empath. So bare with me as you are reading or skip to the bottom for my video explanation and if you want an even quicker summary start it at 3:55. Thank you for your time.
Our story starts with a painted picture of society as we know it: Your parent(s) unknowingly project their life’s experience onto their you. Trying to guard you from unnecessary pain or even just projecting pain from everyday life onto the you. This gives you the perspective of inadequacy because of these projections form your parent(s) there is a subconscious need within the child to project itself onto it’s environment to receive love and joy. You think I need a degree to prove my knowledge, I need a lover to receive and give my love to, I need a car, clothes etcetera to project my joy onto others so they will give me approval. You begin becoming all that is fed to you instead of listening to the knowing voice within that says, you are loved now.
All things come from within you and yet look like they are coming from outside of you…
What exactly is self-actualization?
Located at the peak of Abraham Maslow’s hierarchy, he described this high-level need in the following way: “What a man can be, he must be. This need we may call self-actualization…It refers to the desire for self-fulfillment, namely, to the tendency for him to become actualized in what he is potentially. This tendency might be phrased as the desire to become more and more what one is, to become everything that one is capable of becoming.”
While the theory is generally portrayed as a fairly rigid hierarchy, Maslow noted that the order in which these needs are fulfilled does not always follow this standard progression. For example, he notes that for some individuals, the need for self-esteem is more important than the need for love. For others, the need for creative fulfillment may supersede even the most basic needs.
Characteristics of Self-Actualized People
In addition to describing what is meant by self-actualization in his theory, Maslow also identified some of the key characteristics of self-actualized people:
Love makes us warm all over, and now scientists are creating body maps to prove it.
A team of scientists in Finland has used a topographical self-reported method to reveal the effects that different emotional states have on bodily sensations. After five experiments and over 700 participants from Finland, Sweden and Taiwan, who reported where on their bodies they felt different emotions, the scientists discovered surprising consistencies. Their research findings were published in theProceedings of the National Academy of Sciences:
Most basic emotions were associated with sensations of elevated activity in the upper chest area, likely corresponding to changes in breathing and heart rate (1). Similarly, sensations in the head area were shared across all emotions, reflecting probably both physiological changes in the facial area (i.e., facial musculature activation, skin temperature, lacrimation) as well as the felt changes in the contents of mind triggered by the emotional events. Sensations in the upper limbs were most prominent in approach-oriented emotions, anger and happiness, whereas sensations of decreased limb activity were a defining feature of sadness. Sensations in the digestive system and around the throat region were mainly found in disgust. In contrast with all of the other emotions, happiness was associated with enhanced sensations all over the body.
“All great achievements require time.” ~Maya Angelou
We all have a picture of what we want in our heads.
We get attached to a timeline for achieving it. We fantasize about the results and how it will bring us happiness.
We begin to work hard to attain it.
But when we don’t get it right away, we get frustrated. We want things to move as quickly as possible.
If we want a relationship, we want to find our perfect partner as soon as we can. If we’re building a career or a business, we want success in months. If we want to master a skill, we expect to get good after several weeks.
Right now, I’m in this in-between stage.
I’m in between getting my dream off the ground and where I want it to be. Because my dream hasn’t materialized yet, there are days where I lose motivation, because deep down I feel that if it’s not happening yet then maybe it isn’t for me.
How do you feeling complete and connected to the Earth and others? It takes effort, but it is worth it. We must bring our focus outside of ourselves to allow us to reach out to people and to the world around us in positive ways. Loving, laughing, giving ourselves to others, spending time with friends and those in need to taking care of the environment or a companion animal, all promote positive interaction. Here are 10 steps to help you get connected.
1. Nature and Earth
If you think of nature as a hostile force that is separate from yourself, you will go through life unnecessarily afraid and cut off from one of the great sources of spiritual nourishment. Whether you connect with nature on wilderness trips or lunch breaks in a city park, you can always slow down and observe the infinite variety of her ways. One way to connect with nature is through plants: gardening, collecting plants from the wild, growing cactuses and flowering bulbs, and having unusual and useful plants in and around the home can all help promote connectedness with nature. Plants can enrich your daily life, bring comfort and joy, and remind you that however you think of yourself, you are also part of the natural world.
I think recently you have caused me to think false things about myself. Concepts I would like to address for one: this notion that I know everything. This is a contradiction one does “know everything” because everyone is a conscious being connected by means of energy which is the make-up of the entire universe. To say that you know everything, limits you to the few concepts you have only begun to recognize and resonate with. I think I have found a better way of going about this, in thinking that I know nothing. I then open myself up to the truth of free flowing energy (or in other words knowledge) that is accepted only when you are open to receiving. If I would do the latter and assume that I know everything, as you have advised me to do; I would be fooling myself therefore becoming the fool who mindlessly enters the same mistake over again.