It is said that we are a product of our environment and when we are young, lasting impressions are burned into our minds about what love is, how the world works and what we ought to do when we are older.

As if settling down, getting married and having children is the benchmark for success. But who is really to say what happiness is and what it looks like?

Maybe some of us are perfectly happy, just being alone…

1. Dogmas and social conditioning don’t phase you

You have navigated the emotional concourse of societal expectation and found that it just doesn’t resonate with you. Instead you listen to your heart and follow your inner voice, wherever it might lead.

2. You screen your phone calls.

If you find yourself waiting to respond to text messages and emails after they light up on your screen, this is a sure-fire sign that you prefer your privacy. Setting your own boundaries for what you allow into your personal zone and when.

3. You aren’t desperate to make plans on the weekends

You are confident enough in yourself and do not seek externally for the temporary and fleeting satisfaction that others bring. You prefer to set your own schedule and make plans that you know you’ll enjoy.

4. You enjoy your freedom

A cluttered calendar leaves no time for numero uno and you strive to clear off as many duties as you can, to allow more time for your own personal freedom.

5. You are confident as a party for one. 

You are complete and well-rounded and don’t feel uncomfortable being the ‘fifth wheel’, neither do you mind eating alone. You find clingy couples a bit needy and prefer others who are more self-reliant.

6. You put yourself first

You don’t allow the pressures of others to persuade you from achieving what you want to get out of life. You know that every minute is precious and you always make the most of it.

7. You do what you want when you want

You follow your gut and trust your instincts. You find that living in the flow of life, is the best way to stay balanced and centered.

8. You’re genuinely happy

Constantly being bombarded with people can be draining, especially for an introvert like you. Being alone brings you happiness, and relieves you from all of the personal drama of others.

Being genuinely happy means being happy with yourself. When you love and accept yourself, you become all that you will ever need. It is then a choice to be with others and share your gift to the world.

9. You bask in peace and quiet

You would prefer to live in the countryside, or outside of the city. Apartment buildings and condominiums are a living nightmare for you. You strive to take time out in nature, finding remote spots with serene views to just read a book or meditate.

10. You enjoy your own company

You prefer dining, watching movies, taking a walk in nature or exercising by yourself and are very comfortable in doing so. You laugh at your own jokes, and enjoy the lightness of just being you.

11. You sleep better alone

Cuddling is nice, for a few minutes… and then the blanket war, leg war and breathing war all begin. Quite simply, a nice big bed all to yourself is your vision of perfection.

12. You are a deep thinker

Last but not least, you prefer the time and space to be with your own thoughts and highly regard this time. You enjoy the self exploration and inner transformation of giving yourself the moments needed to just think it out.

by LJ Vanier, Team Spirit!