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3 Ways to Kindly Call People Out When They Are Lying To You

As nice as it would be to live in a world where everyone is honest and transparent, the truth is, we have a long way to go with that still as a species.  Something that can really help you on your journey is being able to distinguish between a lie and a truth.  It is good to learn the ways to identify a lie NOW so that you don’t have to learn the hard way through experience later.

We all have an intuition and a built-in mechanism of discernment that allows us to distinguish between a lie and a truth.  Knowing if someone is lying is generally easy to do.  The hard part is knowing what to do about.  How do you manage the feeling of being deceived?  Should you say anything to them? How do you bring it up to them?

If you do bring it up to them, you run the risk of hurting them or embarrassing them.  If you don’t bring it up, you have a feeling of dissonance inside you which pollutes your soul.  You may also develop resentment to them down the line.  And hey, maybe they will resent you one day for not calling them out on it to help them out.

So what is the proper way to call someone out when they are lying to you? Here are some good places to start:

1) Ask them the same question in a different way, implying you know that they are lying

Let’s say you want to know where your partner was last night because they got home extra late after work.  You may ask something like “Hey why were you late today?” And they may say “Traffic was support awful coming home today. Went through a couple accidents”.  At this point, if you know they are lying, you may want to ask a follow up question:shutterstock_266712599

“Are you sure there isn’t anything else you did that made you late?”

At this point, you may get an answer like “Well I felt a bit hungry so I stopped off at a restaurant and got some food and a beer”. And then if you feel you are not getting the full truth still, continue to ask more questions.

There will come a point at which you know for certain they are lying, and that they will know you are aware they are lying.  This is a great place to start with confronting someone. Continue reading

Why Relaxing Is The Most Productive Thing You Can Do

When we think of qualities and attributes will get us to where we want to be in life, we normally think of things like motivation, ambition, determination, persistence, work ethic, and productivity.  Working 6 or 7 days a week, getting up early, planning, and prioritizing are things that we typically thing of when we think of success and productivity.

But what if all of this was only partly true, and that the best thing you can do to be productive in life is actually the complete opposite of all of those things?  Relaxation is something that often gets equated with laziness, but in reality it is one of the most productive things you can do for yourself and your career.

Relaxation allows you to actually get more done by preventing burn out, be more creative by preserving mental energy, keep your mind focused on one thing at a time to improve quality of work, and it allows you to enhance your own energetic state (which is the best thing you could produce).  Here are some more reasons why relaxing is the most productive thing you can do:

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Studies Discover How Our Universe Grows Just Like A Brain

We often speak of the universe being a reflection of ourselves, and point to how the eye, veins, and brain cells mirror visual phenomenon in the natural universe. As above so below right? Well check this out. How about the idea that the universe is a giant brain? The idea of the universe as a ‘giant brain’ has been proposed by scientists and science fiction writers for decades, but now physicists say there may be some evidence that it’s actually true (in a sense).

The Study

According to a study published in Nature’s Scientific Reports, the universe may be growing in the same way as a giant brain – with the electrical firing between brain cells ‘mirrored’ by the shape of expanding galaxies. The results of a computer simulation suggest that “natural growth dynamics” – the way that systems evolve – are the same for different kinds of networks – whether its the internet, the human brain or the universe as a whole.

When the team compared the universe’s history with growth of social networks and brain circuits, they found all the networks expanded in similar ways: They balanced links between similar nodes with ones that already had many connections. For instance, a cat lover surfing the Internet may visit mega-sites such as Google or Yahoo, but will also browse cat fancier websites or YouTube kitten videos. In the same way, neighboring brain cells like to connect, but neurons also link to such “Google brain cells” that are hooked up to loads of other brain cells.

“The new study suggests a single fundamental law of nature may govern these networks”, said physicist Kevin Bassler of the University of Houston. “”For a physicist it’s an immediate signal that there is some missing understanding of how nature works,” says Dmitri Krioukov from the University of California San Diego. Continue reading

3 Ways To Go With The Flow & Create Magic In Your Life

We all want health, wealth, love, and happiness in life.  But what are we willing to do to get these things?  What is the recipe for creating happiness in life?  The truth is, sometimes all you have to do is get out of your own way and allow more of the energy of the Universe into your life.  It’s sometimes less about what you do and more about your state of being and consciousness.

To go with the flow means to be aligned with Life and the contents of the present moment.  Some people think that “going with the flow” means be a push over, being passive, or being lazy, when in reality it means being proactive and receptive to whatever life throws at you.  It ultimately boils down to working WITH reality, instead of working against it.  And it’s only when we begin to look at Life as something that is on our team can Life begin to look at us like we are on Its team.

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NASA Discovers Planets And Stars Give Off Music – This Is What It Sounds Like

Did you know that planets and stars actually give off music?  Although space is a virtual vacuum, this does not mean there is no sound in space.  Sounds still exists in the form of electromagnetic vibrations and can be detected using specially designed instruments developed by NASA.

These amazing ambient space sounds come from electronic vibrations of the planets, moons and rings, electromagnetic fields of the planets and moons, planetary magnetosphere, trapped radio waves bouncing between the planet and the inner surface of it’s atmosphere, charged particle interactions of the planet, it’s moons and the solar wind, and from charged particle emissions from the rings of certain planets.

Looking into outer space, we often assume it would be absolutely silent. Little do we realize that the universes is teeming with planetary music.  The sounds these planets give off are absolutely breathtaking:

Hope you enjoyed this!

Steven Bancarz,

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The 6 Types Of Friends That Are Always Worth Fighting For

Throughout our life, we meet people on our journey who are unforgettable.  As we develop friendships with people, we grow with them, hold each other accountable, and encourage one another to grow and evolve.  It’s interesting that the same archetypal friends appear in everyone’s life, as if it’s woven into the template of the universe that each soul will experience certain characters on their journey.

The older you get, the more you realize how important friendships are.  When it comes down to it, life is about loving relationships.  It’s not about the rat race, proving your point, or building a cozy nest for yourself.  Without relationships, live becomes empty.  This is why it is so important to recognize the people in your life who are worth fighting for.

Here are 7 archetypal friends that are worth fighting for in life

1) The generous oneshutterstock_211091626 (1)

The one who gives more often than they take.

They want to make sure everyone is happen and content with their end of the deal.

From big things like buying you gifts out of nowhere, to little things like letting you take shotgun in the car, the generous one is an inspiration that service to others is the happiest path you could take in life.

2) The listener

The one who is always down for a heart-to-heart.  They want to help you through your pain, and enjoy acting as a vent for you to clear your mind and energy field of stagnant energy.  They do this because they are naturally empathetic and sympathetic people, and know what it’s like to feel alone, scared, or hurt.  The listener is the kind of person you could be best friends forever with.

3) The upliftershutterstock_308666870

The one who always encourages you to look on the bright side of things.  Didn’t get the job you want? Maybe the Universe has bigger and better plans for you.

Didn’t get the girl you wanted?  Maybe she wasn’t the proper vibrational match for you and your soul mate awaits you just around the corner.

For everyone hardship you go through, they offer a positive perspective which helps level out your energetic and psychological state.  Being around them is super regenerating and refreshing.

4) The honest one

shutterstock_146837942The one who tells you what you need to hear, even if you don’t want to hear it.

The honest one shoots straight with you to help you understand your own actions and behaviours from outside your own personal perspective.

If you can look passed any defensive instincts you may have, you may just realize that having someone like this in your network of friends is exactly what is needed to help push you into expansion.

5) The big dreamer

The one who wants to take on the world.  They want to reach millions, change the world, and influence as many lives as possible.  These people usually have great leadership qualities, and can offer a huge burst of inspiration into your life.  They teach you to set bigger goals, have faith in yourself, follow your passions, and they do this all be setting the example with your own life.  Keep these people around you.  Sometimes, the best way to improve your life is to surround you with people who encourage you and motivate you just by being themselves.

6) Your soul mateshutterstock_245474254

The one who just clicks with you.  You guys resonate at such a deep and transparent level that it deserves to be called more than just a “friendship”.  It feels as though you both decided to incarnate together and help each other on your journeys.  Your soul mate may not be your partner.

They may just be the person that your soul connects with at the deepest level.  Friends like this come around once in a lifetime. Sometimes, less.  Never let these people go.

Friendships like these and the memories they created are what you will take with you when you leave this world.  Cherish these people, and remember that they there is nothing more important in life than connecting with other souls.