8 Ways To Create Real Spiritual Intimacy Between You and Your Partner

I was really nervous when I first realized that I wanted to teach Tantra. What would people think? Would they be offended? Talking about sex is such a no-no. I live in a very small conservative community, how was this going to work?

But then a good friend said to me, “Do you realize what you’re offering people? Tantra is essentially the OPPOSITE of porn.” Once I realized this, I never looked back!

Porn is a funny thing. Despite some opinions, I believe that it isn’t inherently evil. Lots of people truly enjoy watching porn, including many couples who use it together to have a new experience. Yet it is seemingly undeniable that there are some real dark sides to porn.

Besides the obvious violence and anything involving children, there are much more insidious issues:

1) What We Look Like Is Everything

Porn focuses on being stimulated through the body. And so we are subconsciously told that sexuality depends on what your body looks like. You must be young, fit, have perky breasts and a large penis, otherwise you can’t be a good lover.

And ironically this sets up a huge self-worth issue in everyone, particularly those who don’t see themselves as young, fit and perky.

And for the ones that do, they still quite often don’t see themselves as perky or big enough. Ultimately, no one leaves happy with themselves.

2) It’s All About Successfully Pleasuring The Other

Porn focuses on pleasing the other. Now obviously there is some part of us deep down that knows that the desire to please our partner is actually a wonderful thing. But that isn’t usually how it comes across in porn. It comes across as the only thing that is important. Continue reading

9 Life-Changing Experiences People Had After Consuming Ayahuasca

Ayahuasca is a potion that is made out of two Amazon herbs. One of the herbs contains the psychoactive molecule DMT. The Amazon tribes have been drinking this potion for thousands of years; they use it for physical, psychological and spiritual healing. It’s all about the approach of deep wisdom, associated with visions and guidance.

Ayahuasca is a ‘healer’, teacher, the key to a door that opens the inter-dimensional world. The ones who have consumed ayahuasca claim that they experienced spiritual revelations about the nature of the Universe, about their purpose on Earth.

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Some say this is a spiritual awakening equally associated with rebirth. People report that they’ve reached higher spiritual dimensions after consuming the potion and at the same time they were able to communicate with various spiritual or extra-dimensional beings, who may act as guides or healers.

Amazon tribes and Westerners as well, have reported some of the experiences after consuming the ‘holy’ herb – Ayahuasca. These are some of them:

Everything is consciousness. Everything is vibration, even thoughts, ideas and emotions. Everything is made up of the same fundamental geometries. 

There is no separation. Consuming ayahuasca may help you enter the state of non-duality or the unity of consciousness. Since being in such state, you’ll know that separation is an illusion. All life forms and matter are connected with the source – the universal consciousness. The perception of separation, powered by the ego, prevents us from learning the Truths.

Love and light are the foundation of everything that is. Love is a vibration, it is the fabric that makes up all-that-is. The darkness only exists to help us understand the light. The contrast needs to exist to create balance.  Continue reading

Research Suggests Modern Parenting Is Preventing Brain Development

Let’s look at a few blunt (and disturbing) facts about our society.  Children are more overweight than any other time in history.  They play more video games and watch more television than ever before.  Children are being overstimulated with soda and cartoons and then we pump them full of drugs when they can’t focus inside a classroom.  Parents are getting divorces at a higher rate than any other time in history, which strongly impacts a child’s sense of worth and personal development.  Not to mention, there are a whole host of false parenting beliefs and cultural beliefs that have been proven to cause brain and emotional health problems within children:

“Ill-advised practices and beliefs have become commonplace in our culture, such as the use of infant formula, the isolation of infants in their own rooms or the belief that responding too quickly to a fussing baby will ‘spoil’ it,”  says Darcia Narvaez, Notre Dame professor of psychology reporting on a recent study.

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Trying to Quit Smoking? Here’s What happens To Your Body When you Stop

Has the world entranced your mind into needing cigarettes? Has the overwhelming stress of every day life gotten too much? It’s not your fault you smoke cigarettes, they have been designed to keep you on them.

When they were first being introduced, doctors would recommend men smoke them because it’s was good for their stamina; it made them stronger. Smoking was allowed everywhere – even on planes.

Today we have woken up to the truth about what we are doing to our bodies. If you are a long time smoker, quitting on the spot can be literally impossible. LITERALLY. The chemicals in your brain have shifted into making you feel like you cannot live without one. My amazingly brave partner just quit smoking a pack a day for the last 20 years. He knew his body had reached a limit and it became very dire that he stop immediately. It does come down to a choice, but you don’t have to do it alone.

This is what happens to your body after you stop smoking: Continue reading

3 Ways to Kindly Call People Out When They Are Lying To You

As nice as it would be to live in a world where everyone is honest and transparent, the truth is, we have a long way to go with that still as a species.  Something that can really help you on your journey is being able to distinguish between a lie and a truth.  It is good to learn the ways to identify a lie NOW so that you don’t have to learn the hard way through experience later.

We all have an intuition and a built-in mechanism of discernment that allows us to distinguish between a lie and a truth.  Knowing if someone is lying is generally easy to do.  The hard part is knowing what to do about.  How do you manage the feeling of being deceived?  Should you say anything to them? How do you bring it up to them?

If you do bring it up to them, you run the risk of hurting them or embarrassing them.  If you don’t bring it up, you have a feeling of dissonance inside you which pollutes your soul.  You may also develop resentment to them down the line.  And hey, maybe they will resent you one day for not calling them out on it to help them out.

So what is the proper way to call someone out when they are lying to you? Here are some good places to start:

1) Ask them the same question in a different way, implying you know that they are lying

Let’s say you want to know where your partner was last night because they got home extra late after work.  You may ask something like “Hey why were you late today?” And they may say “Traffic was support awful coming home today. Went through a couple accidents”.  At this point, if you know they are lying, you may want to ask a follow up question:shutterstock_266712599

“Are you sure there isn’t anything else you did that made you late?”

At this point, you may get an answer like “Well I felt a bit hungry so I stopped off at a restaurant and got some food and a beer”. And then if you feel you are not getting the full truth still, continue to ask more questions.

There will come a point at which you know for certain they are lying, and that they will know you are aware they are lying.  This is a great place to start with confronting someone. Continue reading

This is What Happens When You Drink Lemon Water First Thing in The Morning

The lemon is widely known for its health benefits.  It is rich in magnesium, fibers, enzymes, potassium, calcium, antioxidants, iron, calcium and vitamins C and B. Moreover, it is known for its weight loss aid as well as for its antiviral, immune-boosting, and antibacterial properties. Don’t hesitate and start your day with a glass of warm lemon water. This simple routine will do wonders for your health.

Recipe:

All you need to do is to squeeze ½ fresh lemon in a glass of lukewarm water. It is recommended to use organic lemon, not bottled one.  Drink the water right away. This should be the first thing you do in the morning, before you eat and workout.

1. Cleanses Your System and is a Diuretic

Being an antiseptic acid, lemon juice has the ability to cleanse your entire system, flushing out all harmful chemicals andtoxins. As it increases urination to flush all toxins, it helps in normal bowel movement. In addition, lemon water helps in increasing the production of enzymes that stimulate liver detoxification function.

2.  Clears Skin

According to many studies, lemon contains antioxidants that help in compensating dead skin cells. It also heals blemishes, and fights any free radical that could potentially harm the skin. Finally, it helps in the fight against bacteria that cause acne, it revitalizes the damaged ski, it delays the process of aging and it leads to youthful and more glowing skin.

3. Boosts Your Immune System

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It is a well-known fact that lemon is one of the best sources of vitamin C. As a result, it increases immune system resistance to diseases and it helps in fighting common colds. It is rich in potassium as well, a mineral that helps in controlling blood pressure levels.  Continue reading