In coaching and development work you often hear talk of mirrors, and the fact that situations and experiences come to teach you a lesson and show you an aspect of yourself.

How do you recognize these lessons when you’re looking into the mirror of a situation?

See That Red Car? It’s Not Red

Look down at what you’re wearing and begin to describe it. I’m willing to bet you started by saying the color of the piece right?

So, for example you said I’m wearing a black shirt. Well you’re wrong – because technically the shirt is every color but black (or red or white or yellow or pink or purple or any other color you can think of).

It’s basic science… the interpretation of color happens because waves from the color spectrum are absorbed by the item being viewed. The colors you see are actually the waves of color that are bouncing off the item.

So the truest thing you can say of anything red, is that it’s not red.

When we view situations with our ego, a similar process takes place: we have capacity for the full range of emotions inside us, but we choose to only focus on one or two at a time.

So when we view a situation, we shoot the waves of our understanding of the range of human emotions at the situation in front of us. The emotions that are absorbed are the ones we ‘ignore.’ Continue reading →

If you are trying to manifest a goal or desire, this could be the reason you haven’t seen any movement. Is this your biggest manifesting mistake?

Have you noticed how you can diligently work on something for months and months, seeing no results – and then you suddenly see results after you’ve gotten really angry with Source, or have given up and felt the pain of surrender and loss?

If all the manifestation teachings about gratitude and thankfulness are right, and you have to be a in a good space to allow things to come to you, why is that stuff often breaks through in the human experience once it’s gotten – and you feel – really bad?

And how does this become your biggest manifesting mistake?

Ask. Allow. Receive.

Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened. – Matthew 7: 7-8

According to A Course in Miracles, anything that you truly desire – with your whole being – you will experience. According to the Bible, if you ask it will be given to you. Every door will be opened to you.

So if you’re manifesting an experience and you haven’t created it, then do you truly desire it – and do you feel that desire inside you?

Have you truly asked on the emotional level?

Desire, need & want

When you truly desire something, you launch the energy for it to be created – but you have to really FEEL that you want it. Continue reading →

Inherently, we understand that forgiveness is powerful technique for freedom, but through lack of experience or understanding, we often don’t understand how.

What are the ways in which forgiveness frees you?

Emotion is a physiological experience

In her book, Molecules of Emotion, author and molecular biologist, Candace Pert, explains beautifully how we experience emotion through the physiological mechanisms within our physical bodies.

To put Pert in context, her original research was into the opiate receptor site and resulted in the medication that they give to heroin addicts, that makes them unable to get high. In a nutshell, what Pert explains is that every emotion or feeling or urge you feel in your body is caused by a specific combination of neuropeptides chemicals released by your brain.

This chemical cocktail rapidly enters your bloodstream, with each little ‘unit’ of the neuropeptide acting like a key that unlocks specific receptor sites on your cells. This then causes a reaction in the cell that you register as a feeling or emotion.

Each neuropeptide ‘key’ can only unlock specific receptor sites on each cell, and every time the cell multiplies, the new cell has more receptor sites for any emotion or feeling you have been bombarding your body with. Over time therefore you need a greater amount of the chemical in order to feel the same ‘rush’, because you have more cell receptor sites available for that chemical trigger.

However you only have a limited amount of space for receptor sites on the surface of each cell, so what the cell does is it starts using up the receptor site spaces for elements you use less frequently – nutrients, vitamins and minerals for example.

This is why it takes time for you to develop a new, or break an old, habit, attitude or way of being. Your capacity to experience the new reality literally grows as you increase the amount of receptor sites on your cells that can process that combination of chemicals when they are released from your brain.

You also have to allow time to elapse for receptor sites for the old way of being to fall away. It’s also why it gets ‘easier’ to do something when you’ve been doing it for a while – the reason it feels like stuff has ‘suddenly’ clicked into place is because your actual physical cells have caught up with the changes that your mind has been making and you are now able to ‘feel’ them in your body. Continue reading →