We could all benefit from some more peace and calm in our lives. Most of us have experienced how stressful situations can make our hearts pound through our chest, our faces grow red, and to top if off, make our palms sweaty right before we have to shake hands with someone important.
These are natural reactions to situations where we feel out of control or anxious. It is the fight or flight response we got for Christmas some time ago from the ever so funny Evolutionary Santa. Our bodies are pumped up and ready to either fight or run for our lives, with the help of some powerful stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol. Sadly, neither fighting nor fleeing is a viable option when you’re holding your speech at your wedding.
Luckily there are some tools you can use to reduce the severity of your fear response. You won’t be able to short-circuit your entire biology, however. Some fear will always be your companion. You can reduce it. And the first method is…
Accept Your Fear
What?! I want to get rid of it. But, acceptance is the first step to change. It sounds like a paradox, but when it comes to fear your resistance is only fueling it. Fear can be understood from a perspective of neural pathways linking some situation or thing to danger or bad feelings. Continue reading