Everyone is gathered around a nice conservative table for a family dinner.  Uncle Joe is talking about the news, your aunt can’t stop talking about how good the food is, and the vibes seem to be very uplifting.  Everything seems quite “normal”, until someone finds out you meditate, believe you are a soul, believe in conspiracy theories, or don’t eat meat.  Then, sh*t gets real.

You may find yourself being put on the spot, made fun or, or criticized for your beliefs and way of thinking quite often.  They may call what you do or believe “satanic”, or say that you are “lost” or will “grow out of it”.  One of the most difficult things about the awakening process is learning how to adjust to a world that seems indifferent.

We come across all of this cool new information, we have amazing experiences in nature or in meditation, we have completely expanded our minds, and then we step back into a society that is asleep for the most part.  Some of the people that claim to love us will start becoming resistant to accepting us and supporting us during our awakening process.

So how do we deal with family members in our lives who judge you and don’t support us?  How do we deal with feeling alienated by the people who we grew up with, and how do we cope with trying to discover ourselves when our own family thinks we are looney?

Here are 3 tips to deal with family members who don’t understand your spirituality:

1) Know your stuff. Know it well.

This is super important.   We need to hold ourselves responsible for doing a good job sharing our knowledge with the world.  It’s crucial that we have something to offer to skeptics who would love nothing more than to strengthen their own belief that this progressive counter-culture movement is just a bunch of hogwash.  If you have any older family members, you know exactly the kind of resistance I am talking about.

Hit them with some facts you have memorized and prepared incase you are asked to share your beliefs about something. You don’t need to be an encyclopedia, just have a few super clutch facts ready. Find the strongest 3 or 4 points for your position, and have them on file in your head.

If you are a vegan, memorize some of the most important environmental impacts of animal agriculture.  If you believe in a spirit world and afterlife, have some strong NDE cases ready to present in case somebody asks. I have a personal library in my head consisting of the evidence for the existence of the soul, tied in with philosophical arguments for us being soul/body composites.

They want knowledge, and quite frankly they deserve it. If we claim to know the truth, but are unable to justify our own position or show others WHY it is the truth, then what good does claiming to know it do?

WE are the ones charged with the responsibility to share the truth with others, and to do it well. We should at least have a solid knowledge-base prepared for when family members or other people try to bring us down and make us feel like we are on the wrong path. But knowing your stuff is not enough:

2) Stay levelheaded, and be sincere

Keep your kinship and friendship as the ground of your conversation. If your uncle is an atheist, don’t get angry at him when he takes a jab at your belief in God. Talk with him about it from your heart in a calm manner. Don’t speak from anxiety or tension.  Anxiety or tension may arise, but don’t let that be the source of your thought.

I find that people start being more open-minded to alternative things when they can sense an authenticity to us and what we are saying. Sometimes, people will be easier to convince and more open-minded when they are in a good mood.  It’s just how human psychology works. So keep them in a good mood as you discuss with them, and you will see a change in their response when lightheartedness is the source.

Your goal should be to share information with them, not prove to them that you are right and they are wrong.  If you know what you are talking about and have sincere intentions, it just makes other people look silly when they try to bring you down.

3) Don’t take things personally

Honestly. Some people only know things they read about in the local morning paper, and don’t want to know anything outside of the old way of thinking. They get a rush off of challenging someone with a more alternative point of view, because it allows their ego to feel more validated and affirmed in its own correctness. Einstein once said intelligent people ignore foolishness, so don’t let them get under your skin.

Some people will stay stubborn in their old beliefs because its more comfortable and convenient for them. If someone thinks you’re crazy because of your beliefs and interests, who cares?

Honestly. Why does it matter what people think of you? Even if it is your own family member, you goal shouldn’t be to seek their approval. Seek the truth. If you are grounded in the truth, and you know that, then what other people say or think about you really doesn’t matter.

So either help them by sharing knowledge with them, or let it go in one ear and out the other.

Know your stuff, come from a place of sincerity, and don’t take anything they say personally. It’s a pretty simple formula.

Some may say that there is no such thing as the “wrong” path, and that every path is the right path.  But is this true?  Are we really being honest with ourselves when we say this?  From personal experience, I know what it feels like to be on the “wrong path”.  By “wrong”, I am referring to a path that does not suit you, serve you, or bring your soul alive.  You know in your heart, soul, and mind that there is something bigger and better out there for you.

These paths only serve the purpose of redirecting us to a more ideal path, and they provide us insight into what we don’t want out from life.  When we pay attention to the little feelings that bubble up in our soul, we can live a life that is guided by our intuition.  A life guided by your intuition is never the wrong path.

Here are 3 signs you may not be on the right path in life:

1) You feel empty inside

You feel empty and unfulfilled inside.

You aren’t excited to wake up in the morning, and you feel like you will be unhappy for the rest of your life if things continue on the same way as they do.

If you feel like your current life is unsustainable for the rest of your life, and that if things don’t change you will go through your whole life miserable, then something has to change.   Continue reading →

Throughout our life, we meet people on our journey who are unforgettable.  As we develop friendships with people, we grow with them, hold each other accountable, and encourage one another to grow and evolve.  It’s interesting that the same archetypal friends appear in everyone’s life, as if it’s woven into the template of the universe that each soul will experience certain characters on their journey.

The older you get, the more you realize how important friendships are.  When it comes down to it, life is about loving relationships.  It’s not about the rat race, proving your point, or building a cozy nest for yourself.  Without relationships, live becomes empty.  This is why it is so important to recognize the people in your life who are worth fighting for.

Here are 7 archetypal friends that are worth fighting for in life

1) The generous one

The one who gives more often than they take.

They want to make sure everyone is happen and content with their end of the deal.

From big things like buying you gifts out of nowhere, to little things like letting you take shotgun in the car, the generous one is an inspiration that service to others is the happiest path you could take in life.

2) The listener

The one who is always down for a heart-to-heart.  They want to help you through your pain, and enjoy acting as a vent for you to clear your mind and energy field of stagnant energy.  They do this because they are naturally empathetic and sympathetic people, and know what it’s like to feel alone, scared, or hurt.  The listener is the kind of person you could be best friends forever with.

3) The uplifter

The one who always encourages you to look on the bright side of things.  Didn’t get the job you want? Maybe the Universe has bigger and better plans for you.

Didn’t get the girl you wanted?  Maybe she wasn’t the proper vibrational match for you and your soul mate awaits you just around the corner.

For everyone hardship you go through, they offer a positive perspective which helps level out your energetic and psychological state.  Being around them is super regenerating and refreshing.

4) The honest one

The one who tells you what you need to hear, even if you don’t want to hear it.

The honest one shoots straight with you to help you understand your own actions and behaviours from outside your own personal perspective.

If you can look passed any defensive instincts you may have, you may just realize that having someone like this in your network of friends is exactly what is needed to help push you into expansion.

5) The big dreamer

The one who wants to take on the world.  They want to reach millions, change the world, and influence as many lives as possible.  These people usually have great leadership qualities, and can offer a huge burst of inspiration into your life.  They teach you to set bigger goals, have faith in yourself, follow your passions, and they do this all be setting the example with your own life.  Keep these people around you.  Sometimes, the best way to improve your life is to surround you with people who encourage you and motivate you just by being themselves.

6) Your soul mate

The one who just clicks with you.  You guys resonate at such a deep and transparent level that it deserves to be called more than just a “friendship”.  It feels as though you both decided to incarnate together and help each other on your journeys.  Your soul mate may not be your partner.

They may just be the person that your soul connects with at the deepest level.  Friends like this come around once in a lifetime. Sometimes, less.  Never let these people go.

Friendships like these and the memories they created are what you will take with you when you leave this world.  Cherish these people, and remember that they there is nothing more important in life than connecting with other souls.