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9 Powerful Decision-Making Tips To Help Your Indecisiveness

Imagine that you are always directing your attention and energy in the best possible way. There is no limit to what you can achieve.

We constantly make tiny decisions. We can direct our attention in any direction we desire, in this moment.

Sadly, we humans make a lot of strange decisions. Evolution has not built us to make perfect choices all the time. Evolution built us to spread our DNA and conserve as much energy as possible. The keywords here are “conserve energy”. Our brain is not big compared to the rest of our body – it is only about 2% of our body mass – but it contributes to about 20% of our energy-use when resting [1]. To conserve energy we have evolved a lot of shortcuts in our thinking.

However, there are some tools that help us make more correct decisions. Few things in life can be done with absolute certainty, but you can significantly improve the probability of your decision being the right one. Here are 9 of the tools that can make your decisions, and your life, amazing:

1 – Begin with the end in mind

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I was first introduced to this principle in the book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People [2].

One of the amazing capabilities of human beings is visualization. But it is a double-edged sword. You can visualize both what you want to happen and what you don’t want to happen. When you put a lot of sustained effort into the visions, they have a tendency to come true, both the good and the bad.

This is the essence of the law of attraction. We attract more of what we focus on.

“If the ladder is not leaning against the right wall, every step we take just gets us to the wrong place faster.” – Stephen Covey

2 – The 80/20-Rule

The 80/20-rule, or Pareto’s Principle, states that 80% of our results come from 20% of our efforts.

Before you do something, ask yourself:

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Understanding How Time, Choice & Destiny Changes Our Lives

Understand time, fate, choice and destiny and how they apply to our spiritual growth.

Time

Time is a geography – it’s a place or space in which events happen.

If time as a space didn’t exist, we wouldn’t have the space in which to experience events as individuated or separated. So time gives meaning by giving space around an experience, and creating isolation in which you are able to experience that feeling or emotion.

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The removal of the space of time would cause a collapse of all the separated events into ALL-that-is, which would mean that they would all happen at once, and they’d already be over.

To help you understand this, it helps to work with the concept of eternity as it is taught in texts like Kabbalah and A Course In Miracles.

Eternity is NOT a measure of time – eternity exists outside time. It is eternal changelessness, or the absolute absence of time and separation.

Time is a mechanism that enables you to see and measure change – eternity is changelessness and already completed unity, the expression of self as ALL-that-is.

Fate, choice & destiny

So the best analogy I’ve found for time, fate, choice and destiny combined is to think of it all like a roleplaying video game.Space-Time

Each lifespan is programmed like a character in the game, so there’s a path you follow, but you have a choice of actions and the route you take. It doesn’t matter which direction you go in either, because every possibility of every choice has already been programmed into the character or lifespan.

As you make your choices as you go along life, they attract certain energies to you, because all your fated spiritual experiences are already lined up and waiting in a row for you to experience across your lifetimes. The energies you attract and amalgamate into yourself will draw the next best fated spiritual experience into your reality now.

So yes, there are fated experiences, but these are actually staggered across the full span of all your karmic lifecycles. By attracting different energies towards you, you can speed up the movement of these fated spiritual experiences towards you.

spiritual-evolution_OMTimes_bigstock-Flight-Of-Butterfly-Girl-53691094This then enables you to move through a number of your incarnations’ lessons rapidly in a single lifetime. It’s also where the feeling of feeling like a new person, or that you’ve started a whole new life, comes from after spiritual breakthroughs. You have literally ‘unlocked’ your next spiritual life with the energies you’ve integrated.

Choice comes in that you can choose the order of the lessons, which path you will follow and whether your experience is positive or negative. Continue reading

3 Reasons Why Our Future Feels So Uncertain

Around the world spiritual peeps are worried that their future feels uncertain. Why does your future feel uncertain – and why isn’t this a bad thing?

If you’ve been on a spiritual journey, there’s usually a sense of direction and movement – a sense that you’re going somewhere. When do you get the odd moment that you feel directionless and unsure, it’s quite unsettling, usually part of a shift cycle, and it usually passes very quickly.

So you’re not wrong to feel uncomfortable about the fact that the future seems so uncertain – and you’re in good company with many of the spiritual peeps around the world who have the same question.

Why does your future feel uncertain right now, and what’s the lesson in all this?

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Have you ever had that experience where you’re trying to explain something to somebody, and they can’t understand it because they don’t have a frame of reference to understand it with? Continue reading

The Fundamental Difference Between Empaths & Unempathetic People

The word empath is a hot trend in spiritual and personal growth circles, and we have an idea of what an empath is… but what does it mean to be an empath?

So yes… don’t know if you’ve all heard, but there’s this shift and awakening thing going on around the world. Have you noticed that?

So why is that actually? Why has your personal journey been so hectic and what is the point of all this empath stuff?

Pain makes most people angry and hateful

What sets empaths and lightworkers apart from most people is our ability to bounce back from pain and traumatic experiences.

Simply watching any of the famous serial killer detective shows will testify to that – almost every serial killer has a story of abuse, abandonment, rejection, hurt and trauma behind them.

shutterstock_334468931What distinguishes you, as an empath, is that no matter how much pain is aimed at you, you always bounce back.

Yes you may get angry and you may be held down for a while, but almost inevitably you will bounce back – you won’t still be living this pain actively five or ten years from now, and you won’t let one negative event stall you for your entire life. Continue reading

How to Know Which Type of Energy Healing is For You

All around the world you find various kinds of energy healing practitioners practicing a smorgasbord of disciplines. So what are the different kinds of energy healing & which one is right for you?

Unlike modern medicine, energy healing aims to release the symptoms by curing the cause of the ailment – whether that cause is physical, emotional, mental or spiritual. What’s more, energy healing work can be applied to any area of your life, from health to finances to relationships to emotions; you name it and the issue or challenge can be cleared permanently from your life.

The choice of modality is really about you and what you are comfortable with. Good practitioners will be able to help you regardless of the modality they practice – they’re just more likely to be an expert navigator in their chosen field of application.

At the end of the day though, almost all roads lead to Rome, and you should be able to use most of the available modalities out there to achieve inner peace and joy in pretty much any area of your life. For the rare instances that you aren’t able to find relief, the list below may give you a better idea of the type of healing help you want to seek out. Continue reading

The Change Up Effect: Why We Really Fear Change

When something is not known or not decided relative to a circumstance that causes us stress or pain, we feel panicked and helpless.  But  there is one particular type of uncertainty that creates the vast majority of our unwillingness to make changes in our life.  The uncertainty is whether or not people are going to change with us.  As people, our survival depends on our connection with each other.KindConnections-franckreporter-lowrez

When  we make changes to ourself or our life, this changes our vibration and in a law of attraction based universe, only things of like-vibration can share the same space.  So what happens if we change our vibration?

We run the risk of no longer being a match to the people who we are currently bonded with in our current vibration.  We run the risk of losing them.  We run the risk of losing our connection.

When we form bonds with other people, we form strong bonds.  So, when we risk losing people by making a specific change to our life, we resist making that change.

If you take a close look at any of the changes you are afraid of making in your life, you will see that at the heart of the fear, is the fear of losong connection with something or someone that you want to be connected with. Continue reading