Usually it’s used in reference to weight loss, and often it’s used in the new age spiritual community as well.
Often i hear this mantra being lived by as if it were a religion, but yet it always begs the question. “What does it look like to Fill your Own Cup?”
I sometimes get the response “Well, you start by breathing” – Interesting, breathing being the process of taking something in from outside you, bringing it in, and flowing it back out…
Another example i love, could you imagine going up to a newborn child, only days old, and telling it “Alright Kiddo! You’ve got everything you need inside you! Just fill yourself up from the inside! Come on! Hop to it!”
This is the female energy we’ve been talking about, and it’s so important to creating real and honest connections full of growth and vitality. You can’t have the male aspect without the female aspect, and it’s okay to acknowledge that sometimes we need help, or could use support from others to make our dreams a reality.
Female energy is nurturing, supportive, caring, and it’s something that doesn’t require you to “fill your own cup from the inside”, because we are all connected, and the cup can be filled from somewhere, and then must flow to somewhere…
By the way, it’s not a cup. It’s a river.
And we’re all in it together :)
All of my love,
A Question from the Comments by Jim Poy:
Hmmm I’m a bit confused here because all the while I thought that it is important to fill you cup first because you cannot share something that you don’t have. Just like in love, you can’t truly love someone if you don’t love your self fully. Help!
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Thank you for the courage to ask your question. It serves us both well. Your question is so profound that it may well serve others as well as it serves you and i and so I have set my attention to it as i am compelled to offer My help in explanation.
We will make a more in depth video soon, in the mean time i will do my best to explain, please forgive me if i am not yet able, or my explanation is not yet good enough, i am doing my best, and I know you are too. Together we all can, and will do ‘better’.
Love is not something to do, it is something to be. We get confused because the concept of love has been ‘objectified’. We think it is something to have or give. A diamond ring, a hug, a kiss. We even have the ‘make love’ thing, if you get my meaning.
Certainly there are things that ‘come’ from love. It is the ‘come from’ that should jog you. There is no order to love. It is not possible to ‘love yourself first’ as the analogy implies. Understand it is simply a mistake of time… of dimension… ‘order’ in all it’s forms. That is why we all have such a hard time of it… ‘trying’ to love ourselves… much less ‘first’.
I sometimes say it’s mixing the 3rd and 4th dimensions and then explaining what we did with 2nd dimension language… think of it like trying to explain how a battleship works to an ant. How would you even start?
Genuine love, what everyone ‘is’ deep inside is both so expansive and so finite that it is not yet ‘explainable’, or perhaps ‘understandable’ by the evolution of the geometric structure that is our thinking brain.
That is however, not required to ‘be’ it. The tree does not ‘understand’ how to grow. It simply does, it’s designed to. We simply do, we are designed to.
One final example of the reference in regard to our language, our way of communicating. Without the ‘constraint’ of time… I could have written everything above with one word and you would have understood it…. ALL